M in Tucson writes...

Hey I have a huge problem... I am 22 years old and at school I met this girl, she is 25 and has a baby.

She is not together with the guy (who is her ex-fiance) but he still lives with her because he is looking for a new place. But they are not sleeping together or anything.

She's been through sooooo many problems in her life. She's been abused, raped, her parents are drug addicts, and now she is sick with Leukemia.

(OMG! That poor girl! The only thing that hasn't happened to her is being bit by shark! A Shark with Donkey-AIDS!)

Things were going well but then she said that I was being "too pushy" and so I changed that and she said it felt a lot better.

Since then we talk more, we go out more, and have fun. But this is the problem...

1. She is way more experienced than me and she even said that.

2. At school she acts cold to me.

3. I am like a text maniac. I text her a lot and worry when she doesn't text back right away.

4. I am too available for her. Anytime she says "we should go out" I always say I am free or make myself free.

One time she said she was horny, so I know that is sex time and yes it is, but I don't say "I can't go out" because I think that she may just look for someone else.

5. One day we were having a good normal time, and I compliment her a lot and I know I shouldn't do that, but I still do, and well she "breaks down" she start telling me she feels hurt for stuff that has happened in her life.

So I said I was always here for her. And she said that she likes the way I am with her and she thinks she should be more sweet to me because I deserve it.

6. When we go out to drink, we always talk like best friends or a couple and last time she hugged and kissed me and we had sex in the back of her car. We left and it was like "awwwww so sweet" then the next day she was back to being cold and not sweet. When she does that I feel like up and down and hurt.

What should I do about this situation?

How can I be confident and show it?

Finally I took your advice and I did what you said in one of the videos, be aggressive say, "You're gonna be mine", I want you, and stuff like that.

So she says, "Are you asking me out?" And I said, "Yes I am." So she says, "Finally you did! I was waiting for that."

But!!! She said to give her a little time to think about it as she is still getting her head straight about some stuff.

So why would she say "I was waiting for you to ask me out" but then kind of said, no?!

She was blushing and all that but I don't know.

What can I do to make her fall for me?

I want her, not anyone else, not another girl... HER!!!

- M in Tucson

Here's the good news: You have PASSION for her. Girls like that.

Here's more good news: It's working. She clearly likes you back.

Here the bad news: You are being a psycho.

Calm down. Think. THINK!

What does it mean for a woman to have a fiance? This means she was planning to MARRY this man. She imagined her entire future life with him. AND... she actually has a baby with him!!! AND... she still lives with him!

Do you really think she can get over that so fast?

THINGS YOU CAN GET OVER QUICKLY
- the pain of losing a paperclip! Oh, the memories of the papers it clipped!

THINGS YOU *CAN'T* GET OVER QUICKLY
- The end of your relationship with the person you made a baby with

- Holding in your hand a deliciously yummy ice cream cone and then accidentally dropping it on the sidewalk. Noooo!!! I'm not getting married and I don't have ice cream! Waaaaa!

Her feelings are all confused. She likes you. AND she is still trying to HEAL from the incredible pain of breaking up her intense relationship. She is trying to HEAL from losing her baby's father. She is trying HEAL from a traumatic childhood. She is trying to HEAL from freakin' Leukemia!

Give her a break!

SPOILED BRATTY RICH KID: Is that all her problems? Please. *I* too was raped... by the stock market! My daddy's portfolio is down to being worth only $4 billion. Now we have to cut back. Instead of going on vacation to our private island we have to go to a... it pains me to say it, hotel. They just hand out these "5 stars." Please, anyone can offer caviar breakfast served on the backs of trained doves that fly into your room.

Take it SLOWLY. Don't rush. Be persistent and aggressive but also be sensitive!

You are waaaay too clingy and needy. This behavior will drive her away.

This is your main problem. YOU. Not her. She doesn’t need more problems, she needs a strong man to lean on.

If you really want this girl, you will need a lot more...

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- If you know you're the man for her, then prove it. Tell her. SHOW her with your behavior. Help her heal.

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