D in Houston writes...

Dear Hog,

I met a guy through an online service and have gone through the progressive stages of connecting with him: email, voice chat, and finally meeting up in person. We hit it off at each stage.

Granted, on the surface there are differences between us but we value much of the same things at the core (i.e., loyalty, communication, family, respect, being supportive).

The catch is that he is just coming out of a divorce (one month now). I knew going into this that I very well may be a rebound. He has repeatedly stated that his marriage has been over for a while now and that I am not a rebound. He also states that he likes me very much and would like to expand on our relationship by introducing me to his children.

I am out of town for work for about 3 months; I am just over a month into things now and feel that the relationship is slipping away. At first, the emails and calls were regular and consistent but now he waited an entire week before writing me.

He stated that he was trying to give me space to take care of my business. I still feel like the relationship is losing importance to him. Am I overreacting and being too needy? Or is he just being cautious?

I didn't email or call him first because I don't want to fall into a pattern of me chasing him so I gave him the space to email and call me instead (aka be the man and come after the woman); the result was silence for about a week.

I am wondering what I am missing or not reading from him.

How should I address my feelings of wanting him to take more initiative when I am away?

- D in Houston

Is he being cautious? He SHOULD be!

TIMES WHEN YOU SHOULD BE CAUTIOUS
- after the end of your marriage

- when a man holding a taco asks you to pull his finger <fart!>

- when trying to cross the street in Miami

OLD GRUMP HORNY GUY: (driving, trying to look over steering wheel) Ah, pedestrians don't have the right of way, old people do! Especially old, constipated people! Who are dr-r-r--r-runk!

If he just got divorced, he will be going through A LOT of emotions. It typically takes at least 2 full years to heal from a divorce. That doesn't mean that he wants his ex-wife back, it just means that he will go through many internal changes. Most men won't even be aware of these feelings because they will try to fight through it or ignore them.

What this means for you is that you need to know that he might not be super emotionally stable at this time. Either you can pledge to help him heal or you can decide that you want a guy who has had enough time to recover.

And by recover, I mean sha-boink a variety of women until he realizes he wants to attempt to have another real connection with a woman.

Bad marriage or not, it's an identity shift for a person when they are no longer together with the one they promised to keep for life.

Why would he want to jump into another serious committed relationship right away? Does he fear being alone?

Just make sure that his feelings are about YOU and not about him wanting to be with SOMEONE.

So you can make sure that you're NOT a rebound chick by...

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- His ex-wife will always be involved in his life. You have to accept that and you also must have peace of mind that he has no interest in getting back with her. Ever.

- Make certain that you have ENOUGH in common to be happy together. If you want a long-term thing, then over the course of many years you want someone who shares at least SOME of your interests. So you can like, ya know, do stuff together.

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