loved your answers to other questions and I think that they were
right on and humorous, so I am bending over and sending my question to
Never been lucky or good in relationships, I have had plenty of them
they never seem to go anywhere.
Either the sex sucked, they were too old, or they were unreliable.
I am dating a man now, who I really like. We are not dating other
people, but that's not to say that I wouldn't if a certain something-
something came along that I wanted to snatch up.
He does many things right, he's funny, he calls when he says he
will, worships me and my temple, takes me out for a good time,
and is committed.
But here's my real problem, thinking of giving him the
boot because I
think he drinks too much. For instance sometimes it affects his ability
to get up in the morning for work, or he'll buy a can of beer for the
car ride home.
I believe he has an addictive personality, also likes poker,
take a chance with him? I have lived my 37 years untouched by men who
have drug and alcohol problems, and I am not about to start now.
Unsure if this is truly a problem or if I am just PMSing? Thanks Hog.
Q65: You said it all, baby-doll. You are not all-about
this nub. You said
you'd drop this dude like a NYC Subway Rat drops turds if
came along... hmm.
Do you wanna "settle" for this guy?
Nothin' wrong with settling!
Sometimes we're just
lazy. I mean, finding a guy who makes you happy is hard work! It's soooo much easier to settle for a guy who
makes you feel "not bad." PRETTY good. NOT
Isn't that every
Maybe he's not a Knight in Shining Armor but he's a Delivery
Brown Shorts. That's okay! I mean, MY shorts are brown
and I DON'T have
a uniform! Not a Knight in Shining Armor? Still can be a great
don't let him be like me: A Jester in need of a shower.
He's got a lot of great qualities BUT... you don't like that he
so much. That's a big one.
Let's say you were gonna buy a doggy. Great doggy.
Cute. Cuddly. Loyal.
Poops in your bed. Every day.
Hmm. Do you want to overlook this guy pooping in your
You sound confident. You can get a new man. You're right:
gamblers don't make the best boyfriends. Doesn't mean he's not a
guy. He's just got some problems. Like when he's suckling your
fantasizing that they're BEER cans.
For a romantic night out, he takes
you to Central Park for a Horse & Carriage Ride -- and places
whether the horse will Win, Place or Show. Stooooooopid.
Whenever there's something you don't like about a person (or a
for that matter) you have 4 choices:
1. change the person
2. accept the person
3. leave the person
HINT: Choice 1 never works. How do you change
someone? You can't. They have to change themselves. This CAN
happen. But YOU can't make it
happen. Isn't that frustrating? Because I'm sure you know just
run this guy's life! Ya know, since YOU'VE got it all together.
We're all like that. Me, too. I'm here telling you what you should do,
meanwhile I really need a nose-hair trim. Maewest, you're asking
from a guy with very long nose hairs.
Change? It's up to the other person.
With girls, they NAG their man until it gets to the point where -- rather than come home to YOU -- he'd prefer to dip his
testicles in cat-nip and sleep naked in a cage with 12 tigers.
With guys, they criticize their woman until her self-esteem is
lower than the morals of Michael Jackson's defense attorney.
If your man is drinking & driving and missing work because
you're not gonna change that with your strategic nagging. The guy
You're waking up to
Folgers in your cup. He's waking up to Vodka and Red Bull. And a bowl of Lucky Charms, looking to
score 3 Green Clovers on his spoon and yell JACKPOT! And
and glass of orange juice, for a well-balanced breakfast. Oops.
That's not O.J. It's a
Choice 2. Accept him. A lot of times, this is right way to
another human's imperfections. Accept your own imperfections. But
as obvious as the ass on J.Lo
that you don't want to accept this behavior. You consider it UNacceptable.
You don't want to live this way.
Choice 4. This is a very popular choice among women. It's also
annoying to listen to.
So that leaves us with...?
This is not the nub for you.
Okay, that's done. Now for the
real issue. You want a guy to
worship you and "your temple"???! What? A guy SHOULD treat
you like a princess. But worship? What do you want? Animal
sacrifices? Fine, but don't complain when you come home to 200
flickering red candles and your kitten is tied to the
frying pan over a flame on the stove.
Worship your Temple? Us nubs LOVE the Temple. We enjoy the
services. We want to go the Temple every day. We wanna pray more
than Muslims in the Middle East. But you want a guy to WORSHIP your
Temple? Go into your
Temple and clean the carpet? I guess that's your thing. Okay
when guys are worshipping your Temple you'll get a bad rep if you pass around a collection