I had this friend a while ago who I was terribly 'in
He ended up getting back together with his ex-girlfriend.
Pretty much our friendship ended shortly after this because we both knew it
wasn't going anywhere.
So 2 years later I started thinking about him again. After a rather
'stalker' attempt at it, I finally got to see him and we started hanging out.
Everything was great. I realized realistically we'd only ever be friends
but good friends and that was better than not having him in my life.
THEN HE JUST STARTED TO IGNORE ME AGAIN!
He told me he loved me one day (in a manner I took
innocently enough) but I asked him not to really toy with my emotions as that's
just simply not the kind of friendship we have.
It was really awkward for a few days, then it was fun again.
RANDOMLY, a couple of weeks later he just completely stopped talking to me
again. Won't return calls or texts.
So I'm confused. Why was it that one week he
introduced me to his friend as his 'home girl for life' and then the next
week can't even tell me why he's decided to ignore me again?
Oh, and just so you know I've invoked my right to be crazy and insecure
and continue to text/call him weekly just to see if he'll answer. This is psycho
and crazy -- but I really care about him and really like his company. HELP!?!
Hog's Relationship Advice:
He is playing games.
And you love it!
Oh, the drama he has given you! It's all so exciting. You're life
is now full of heavy lows and light-hearted highs!
He may not even KNOW he is playing games, but you said it: he is toying with
He could have set you to "ignore" because he feels you
getting too attached. Generally, guys aren't good at having friends who are
girls unless they are friends with benefits.
Or we are friends with a girl in hopes that one day there will be
Or in the past there were benefits and we'd like to re-sign a new
NOTE: Benefits can include any or all of
the following: dry-humping, a beautiful oral arrangement, or butt-s*x.
You love the chase. He is elusive. In the words of the Prophet Morrissey:
"The more you ignore me, the closer I get." This is your theme song.
NOTE: My theme song is Born to be Wild.
They play my song every time I enter the all-you-can-eat buffet.
So when you did have him, you realized you'd only be friends? Why?
Because you GOT him! The chase is complete. The fun is over. Next.
Can you really be friends with this guy without wanting more?
If you enjoy his company and you care about him... does he feel the same way?
If yes, then you two should be sha-boinking.
If he does not feel the same way, that's okay. That happens all the
time. You can't force together 2 pieces of a puzzle together that don't
fit. (Though you can get in better shape so your puzzle piece is
more compatible! This goes for guys and girls, both bodies and personalities.)
I think he feels like you want more than he can give you.
Chill the f*ck out.
NOTE: Girls hate it when you tell them to chill the f*ck out. But
gosh-dammit, sometimes y'all need to chill the f*ck out!!!
Is he a true friend to you? My true friends don't ignore me. But then
again, I'm not trying to mount them.
NOTE: Okay, it was ONE time. I had way too many peach wine spritzers and he was
Stop chasing him. Meet new men. Learn how.
Advantages of meeting lots of guys:
* You will see there are many cool people out
there that you get along with.
* You will stop fixating on any one particular dude.
* When you DO find a great guy, you will be with him for a great
reason... you CHOOSE him because he is the best... not because you are
lonely or horny or lonely and horny.
NOTE TO HIGH SCHOOL KIDS: For you, it is acceptable to be lonely
and horny. It's actually a required part of being a teenager.
You're trying to prove yourself to him. This is NOT seductive. It is
repellant. When you try too hard, you push people away. You admit you are
acting crazy and insecure. Would you want to be with someone who is both
crazy and insecure?
NOTE TO GUYS: Crazy and insecure women are great in bed.
NOTE TO GUYS: Choose a girl who is either crazy OR insecure, not crazy AND
NOTE TO WOMEN: Yes, YOU fit into one of the following 3 categories: crazy,
insecure, crazy and insecure. Keep your crazy to a minimum and you will
have any guy you desire!
NOTE TO WOMEN: Guys all fit into one of the following 3 categories: Stinky,
stupid, stinky and stupid.
NOTE TO MEN: Keep your stinky to a minimum and you can have any woman you
In any case, take some time to yourself to find out what you REALLY want in a
man. Think about this: the chase is over... you got the guy. What will it
take to keep you interested in a relationship?
In the end, if you have a hole in yourself, no man can fill it.
NOTE: Except the moist hole.
Concentrate on being a happy person and loving yourself. According the
Prophet Whitney Houston, "Learning to love yourself, it is the
greatest love of all."
NOTE: Well, that and crack-cocaine.
Once you are happy with you, you can welcome a man into YOUR life to join
But in reality, no one is that healthy. So just find a guy
who treats you nice and gives you 0rgasms.