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Hi Hog,

My boyfriend of 8 months has a child with someone else. I also have a child with someone else. But his ex is always calling him saying how much she screwed up and how much she loves him. But she left him and their daughter. I have no respect for her.

He doesn't tell her to stop calling because he doesn't want to be mean. He just makes me deal with it and I don't think it's fair.

They talk on the phone and he said he will always be there for her when she needs someone. I don't feel he should go out of his way to always be there for her. Why do they need to know what's going on in each other's lives? I only talk to my ex when it's about my daughter.

So when my boyfriend talks to his ex she always brings up the past and talks about them getting back together. I told him how I feel but it's like he thinks it's a joke. I think he likes two girls fighting over him. I just don't know if I can deal with this. I don't know if that's
selfish. It's makes me angry, jealous, and worry all the time.

- N

Hog's Relationship Advice:

Wow. You guys are carrying more baggage than will fit in the overhead compartment and seat floor in front of you.

Yes, his baby's mama is trying to get him back.

Yes, it would seem that he enjoys the attention.

Will he leave you to go back to her?

Hmm...

This is tricky because he needs to see his child. But you're right, he shouldn't be encouraging his baby mama's behavior by allowing her to get sentimental.

Your situation is the reason that Albert Einstein coined the phrase "Baby Mama Drama."

Your dude needs to be straightforward with his baby's mama.

He also needs to get some sort of court order that guarantees he will be able to see his child.

And he needs to be honest with you about his feelings. It's okay for a guy to have friends who are girls outside the relationship, but not when those girls want to f*ck him and kiss him and suck on his jammy like it was the straw in the bottom of her almost-empty Pina Colada. <Insert sound effect of enthusiastic slurping.>

To win any negotiation, you need to be willing to walk away. As painful as it may be, can you walk away from him?

If you can, then ask him to be a man and make the decision: Does he want to get back with his baby-mama or be with you? Because he can't have you both.

NOTE: But if he could, that would be pretty cool. Because there'd be threesomes and cat-fights.

Yeah, of course he likes 2 girls fighting over him. If feels great! What an ego boost! You girls are used to guys hitting on you and and fussing over you. For us guys, we rarely have 1 girl who wants us!

So you need to show him that you will not allow this current situation to continue.

Don't threaten him. Don't get angry. There is a reason he is not with her and he's with you. So you are obviously doing something right in your relationship with him.

<Insert sound effect of enthusiastic slurping.>

Show him that you love him. And remind him that you are woman to be respected. And if he truly cares for you and loves you, he will stop the games.

HA HA HA! Just kidding! Men are pigs! He's going to totally sha-boink her!

Then he will get caught. Then you will dump him. Then he'll be back with his baby's mama. Then she'll start acting like her old self and leave him again. Then he'll be alone. And he'll be spending every night with his old-old girlfriend that met on the internet: ".jpg"

It's your job to save him from himself! This is the role of women in American society. To lift a man from his base desires and make him want to be a better person.

If your dude wants to keep his baby's mama in his life, this is very delicate. He still cares for her. But why?

He needs to focus his love and attention on his new life with you.

The best thing that could happen is that his baby's mama finds a new man. Then she will stop obsessing over your man.

So my advice to you? Find her a new man!

Go out and put up her profile on every dating site, MySpace, hell -- post her picture on every telephone pole in town!

Get this woman a date!

Once she has this need satisfied, she will stop yearning for what was... because she will be too happy with what is.

By the way, this is what your boyfriend should be doing, too. Being happy with what is instead of talking about what was.

Word, hogsta.

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