There is this girl I work with that I really like but
I've never gone out with anyone because I'm really quiet and to myself. How
would I ask her out?
Hog's Relationship Advice:
If you're really quiet then you should ask her out in a
quiet way. Like, whisper in her ear, "Hey you. I like you. I want to
take you out for pizza."
This will totally not work.
First, why are you so quiet and to yourself?
You don't have to be loud and obnoxious, but you know the old saying, "The
squeaky wheel gets to grease up the girl."
Sounds like you have a lack of confidence. Learning to be more confident
is much more important than any particular chick you might be interested
in at the moment. Because with confidence, you will meet lots of cool people.
Without confidence, people will not get a chance to see how awesome of a
dude you are, because you are too shy to show them that side of your
Same with this chick. Does she KNOW you are awesome? If she does, then you can
ask her out. If a girl doesn't know how awesome you are, then you have to
go about showing her first.
So how do you show a girl you are awesome?
#1 - Don't try too hard. That's not cool. Girls are attracted to
confident guys. Trying too hard shows you are needy for her approval. Yuck.
To show a girl you are awesome you can do things like:
1 - walk tall and with purpose 2 - make her laugh 3 - drive a sports car and throw money out the window 4 - play guitar 5 - be a really interesting person 6 - teach her stuff about herself 7 - slam dunk in the big game 8 - arm wrestle a panda and win
Then, she has to show you how awesome SHE is. If her being pretty is
enough to prove her awesomeness to you, then you are lame. Make her prove she is
more than just a pretty face.
Once she knows you are awesome and she shows you that SHE is awesome...
it's time to tell her that you like her.
You can say stuff like:
1 - You seem pretty awesome. I like to hang out with awesome people.
Let's go get pizza on Friday. What time is good for you?
2 - You're a lot different from the girls I usually talk to. I think
you're cool because you're not only pretty but you're also really good at Wiffle
Ball. I like that. Let's get some pizza.
3 - I own a Hollywood Movie Studio and I think you'd be perfect to
play the lead actress in my new film. But first, let's get some pizza.
WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T ASK HER OUT LIKE THIS... (and I know because I did
these lame things when I was in high school)
1 - ask her friend to ask her if she like-likes you and would want to go
out for pizza.
2 - ask for her phone number so you can talk about
the homework and then at the end of the conversation ask her if she wants to
study together while eating pizza.
3 - write her a poem. Not only is this sappy but
it's REALLY hard to find a word that rhymes with pizza.
In conclusion, the most important thing here is that you learn to be more
confident. There are books you can get to help you with this.
Learning to be confident is the #1 most important
skill in life.
Actually, it's #2 after learning how to eat the yummy hot cheese as it falls off
your slice of pizza.