♥ Dating Advice: How to stand up for yourself while still being nice Expert Dating Advice
by me, HogWild
S in Ireland writes...
The dating advice videos are great!
I have a question, how do you stand up for yourself?
A few months ago, I started seeing this guy, just for fun. It was never going to go anywhere, I never wanted it to. He started to spread untrue stories about me being a b!tch and he also bragged to the lads saying things that never happened.
I ended it completely but I live in a very small village! I know a few of his friends pretty well so I care what they think, especially if it's not true!
My confidence was flattened completely. I am not the kind of person who complains but I've never had to clear my name.
I get really nervous when I see them because I don't know what to say... I want to know even in general how to stand up for myself. Maybe I'm making a big deal out of the whole thing but two of the girls aren't even talking to me and I hate drama! Help me pretty please. :D
- S in Ireland
I would help you even if your please was not pretty. Even if your please had a unibrow and spinach caught in its teeth! haha
But I DO appreciate a pretty please. So thank you.
It's a great question and the same answer applies whether you are a Hog or Hoggette.
You MUST stand up for yourself. No one is allowed to tear you down.
You will be firm but sweet. Like a ripe cantaloupe.
MACHO GUY WHO SELLS MEAT FROM HIS TRUCK: Hey, I sell meat from the back of my truck and HogWild is getting all fruity again! A person can't be like a MELON! You gotta be like one of my steaks... bloody tough! Then your job will be well-done. Get it, well-done? Ah, you wouldn't get it because you're not lucky enough to be in the sellin-meat-from-the-back-of-a-truck-industry.
As you dispute the rumor, keep your dignity. People will respect that. They will respect that like a firefighter who is wearing a tuxedo.
FIREFIGHTER: Oh no! I've got to run BACK into that falling burning building!
GUY: Is a baby trapped inside?
FIREFIGHTER: Probably! But also, I've lost my cufflinks!
GUY: Do you think the baby has them?
FIREFIGHTER: Probably! And that's DANGEROUS! Because the baby might wear them with casual attire!
In a case where some jerk face jerk-a-zoid is spreading lies about you -- take control of the situation in 3 steps.
Step 1: Meet with the jerk in person, look them in the eye and say, "Hey, I don't know what I did to hurt YOU but these things you are saying are hurting ME. It's not right. You should be ashamed of yourself. I had always thought you were a better person than that. If I offended you in some way that you think I deserve this harsh treatment, then please explain... But what you're doing isn't right. Please stop and tell your friends that you were exaggerating. Gracias. Adios."
Step 2: To the people who are hearing and believing the rumor, you look THEM in the eye and say...
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- Women, use your power of vulnerability. Cry. Show him how much he has hurt you. This is NOT weakness, this is your STRENGTH. You can CRUSH a man's heart with your tears. If he has any kind of soul, he will break down, and stop hurting you.
- If you lived in a big city and you'd never run into that guy or those friends, you would just ignore his stupidity. But since your reputation WILL be affected, you MUST act.
Stand up for yourself.
- You DESERVE to be treated well. You were created to be AWESOME. Anyone who treats you as less than awesome is a sad person who is trying to USE you to feel better about themselves. But these people are being PATHETIC. You have a DUTY to never let anyone step on you. And if the previous methods don't get you results, here is what you do...
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