J in Chicago writes...

Hey Hog,

What's up?!

I'm dating this girl and she's nice, always answers my texts and calls and we've been out a few times. I keep telling myself "don't try to impress her, just be impressive." I got that from you, buddy. Thanks. So she keeps telling me that I'm really reserved, which I dont mind, you know, let her work for information.

For instance, she asked me how much rent I paid and about my religion but I did not tell her. She asked me twice but I avoided answering her.

Here's the thing though, I want to form more of an emotional bond that can increase her attraction to me even more.

I've gone in for the kiss but she totally ducked, I know I felt like a dork but, [bleep] it you know.

I know that I'll eventually get close enough. Well that's where I hope you can give me some ideas on how to form more of an emotional bond.

How do I find the balance between opening up more to let her into my feelings but not seeming desperate or weak?

Thank you,

- J in Chicago

How to form an emotional bond with another human:

- A road trip together where some unusual things happen or you have lots of time together to talk. And especially if you...

- Share a near-death experience

HER: Oh my Gaaaaaaaaaaaaawd! We just hit a deer! It's through the windshield and he's looking at me!!!

YOU: Thank goodness, we're OK. This really makes you realize that life can be gone in an instant so it makes sense to enjoy every moment we...

HER: Are you unbuttoning my shirt?

YOU: I am.

HER: ... Well, OK.

YOU: Thank you automobile deer perfume kit and mating signal!

HER: What now?

YOU: Oh, I was just saying, BRRRRRREWSKI!

Reveal things about your past that trouble you or make you sad. Talk about some serious challenges you’ve had and encourage her to talk about the same.

Basically trust her with some sensitive stuff about yourself. Get her to trust you back.

Share your true feelings about what is close to your heart -- each others' dreams, proudest accomplishments, saddest moments... this will bring you closer together.

YOU: But I don't want to seem like a weak wuss-bag full of wuss-milk!

Weakness is not what you think. It takes STRENGTH to open up to another person and let them in. It take COURAGE to allow a person to see you as you really are.

It's WEAK to be...

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- You certainly don't need to answer all her questions. It's not about that. It's not about what you tell her... this is about an exchange of TRUST.

- Now here is exactly what you tell her to begin a deeper emotional connection while not looking weak...

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Comment below! Have you ever blocked someone out because you were scared about getting hurt? Did you ever play TOO hard-to-get?

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