My boyfriend and I have been together for a few
months and it's wonderful, everything is wonderful. Except this girl
who he dated for only 2 weeks last spring is still calling him! He
always says, "I am busy, and I can't talk." But she still calls!!!! Its
driving me crazy! When will she give up? Is she crazy? (By the way, he was her
first boyfriend and all they did was kiss.)
Hog's Relationship Advice:
Your man needs to lay down the law. He needs to tell her
in a very direct way, "I am seeing someone new. Please stop calling
Unfortunatelyfor you, guys never do this
because we hate to upset our "just-in-case" ass.
You girls do this, too. You just lie to yourself
about it. Is there REALLY a reason to keep in contact with your ex-boyfriend
from Freshman year of college? But you know, one email every six months is
enough to keep him alive as your "just-in-case" of a break-up go-to d!ck.
If this ex-girlfriend is really obsessed with him, then he needs to
cut her out completely. None of this "being friends" nonsense. If they only
dated for 2 weeks then they didn't build up any kind of incredible
friendship. So that's out.
As for you, you have to trust your man. If you don't trust him then don't
be with him.
Cheating requires 2 people. Just because she wants him doesn't
mean he's going to give in. If he really values you, he won't hurt you
because the pain of losing you will be greater than the pleasure
of a hooking up with an old spring fling.
Tell your boyfriend that you care about him and that you would be devastated if
he ever cheated on you. If a guy actually pictures the look on his girlfriend's
face when she found out that he shaboinged
another woman, he wouldn't be able to go through with it. Remind him that a
woman always knows.
Back in the day there was this guy named President Bill Clinton.
HE got caught cheating! The President of the United States with all his
secret service and armies and CIA got caught! That means ANY guy can get
Guys cheat because it's an ego-boost to know that another girl finds them
sexy. And also because we like boobies. Guys cheat because they think their
woman won't find out. Or because he doesn't appreciate his girlfriend
anymore and doesn't really care if he gets caught.
WHAT YOU SHOULD *NOT* DO:
Do not threaten the other girl. It will make you look insecure. And it will make
her work harder to "win" your boyfriend away from you. Because if you're
really fighting hard for him, he must REALLY be a prize! Now she wants him even
NOTE: The exception to this rule is you 2 agree
to fight in Jell-o.
Even if you do bust this girl in the mouth, there will always be
another girl who tries to take your man. But if you really have a good guy
who appreciates you, he will NEVER cheat on you.
NOTE: Unless he's away on a business meeting.
NOTE: Or vacation.
NOTE: Or a really hot ex-girlfriend calls because "Is it really cheating if it's
a girl you've had sex with before?"
Don't let this other girl drive you crazy. It's up to your boyfriend to
be faithful. Just like it's up to YOU to be faithful to HIM. YOU have dudes
hitting on you, asking for your phone number... is your boyfriend supposed to go out
and slay all these dudes? He has to trust you. And you have to be willing
to do the same.
This is why it hurts so much when someone cheats. Because you put your
faith in that person. But remember, you are dating a human. Humans
mess up. There is only 1 thing you can put ALL your faith into...
chocolate. And God.
By definition, God can't mess up because everything He does is right.
Lucky bastard. He gets to know all and see all. Meanwhile we're down here
bumping our sticky parts into each other, trying to make sense out of it
all. It's like we've got 20 pieces of a giant jigsaw puzzle. And we don't
even have the picture on the box to guide us!
But God has it. And He's laughing his heavenly ass off!
GOD:That piece doesn't go there! Why are you trying to jam your piece
of the puzzle into hers? HA HA HA!! Silly humans!